(1) Ask yourself where you draw the lines on being too free and where you draw the lines on being too uptight. Then ask God to show you if either of those lines need to be adjusted. If you are willing to change, God is willing to show you where to change. It is stubborn inflexibility that deafens most people to hearing from God.
(2) Remember that some things may be right (or wrong) for you, but not for others. Do what you can to educate people in what is right and what is wrong, but guard against confusing your personal opinion with God's perfect will.
(3) Practice asking yourself why rules about sexual behaviour have originated. If there are good reasons for the rules, they will be easier to follow. There may also be circumstances in which a rule will need to be changed or applied in a different way in order to achieve the same goal.
(4) There is abundant evidence that God, the Creator of the Universe, loves us and wants us to be happy. So if he makes a rule that you find difficult, and you are not able to understand why he made the rule, give God the benefit of the doubt, and do what he says anyway just because you trust him to know what is best for you in the long run.
(5) Finally, if you feel guilty about your past behaviour, ask God to forgive you and to help you to change your life to conform with his will from now on. Jesus died on the cross so that anyone who comes to him in faith can be forgiven. Write to us for more information on how to serve and obey Christ.
God bless you!
